Family Matters

“Then God said, “Let Us make mankind in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the livestock and over all the earth, and over every crawling thing that crawls on the earth.” So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” (Genesis 1:26-27 NASB20)

From the creation account above, I do believe that there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman. And there in the garden, man only ate fruit and vegetables as well. For we read: “And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed. And out of the ground made the LORD God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food.” (Genesis 2:8-9 KJV) Also, we can see that there was no fear between man and the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God. For Adam and Eve were not yet tainted by the evil desires of sin.

Now for starters, we should all know that both the man and the woman were created in God’s image as quoted above. So, this shows that both the man and the woman are equal in nature. For: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28). However, we should also know that are differences between our God given roles that are bestowed upon us. For in nature itself, we can see that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the females. But again, this is not inferring that one is better than the other.

“To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your labor pains; with pain you will give birth to children. You will want to control your husband, but he will dominate you.” (Genesis 3:16 NET)

According to that passage above, we see that the woman’s desire after the fall is to now control her husband. We can see this same wording in chapter 4 of Genesis where we read: “Then the LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry, and why is your expression downcast? Is it not true that if you do what is right, you will be fine? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at the door. It desires to dominate you, but you must subdue it.” (Genesis 4:6-7 NET) So we can see from these two passages that there is going to be a desire to have ones will and way over another?

Therefore, I believe this is not about some sexual desire that a woman now has for her husband. I say this because God told Adam and Eve to be “fruitful and multiply” before the fall. So instead, wouldn’t this be a desire for her to now control and dominate her husband, just as sin now wants to dominate control us. Therefore, because of the fall the woman may now challenge the man’s rightful place of headship over her. However, God’s word clearly says: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.” (1 Timothy 2:11-14 ESV)

So, let’s be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word. For we shouldn’t try to water it down with our own theology or feelings. Because there seems to be this urge to twist or bend scripture in such a way that it would be appealing to all. (2 Peter 3:15-16) And why is this? Could it be because we’re so afraid of offending others? And It’s no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? Therefore, it’s time that we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life. This should be true for both the man and the woman and their children as well. Because for us to do otherwise would be a disobedience to God’s divine commandment. Amen.

Below are a few passages concerning the roles of the man and woman:

• But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ. (1 Corinthians 11:3 NASB20)
• Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24 NIV)
• A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a wrongdoer. (1 Timothy 2:11-14 NASB20)
• Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward - arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel - rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. (1 Peter 3:1-6 NKJV)
• Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 NKJV)

Below are some Commentary References:

• If man had not sinned, he would always have ruled with wisdom and love; and, if the woman had not sinned, she would always have obeyed with humility and meekness; and then the dominion would have been no grievance: but our own sin and folly make our yoke heavy. If Eve had not eaten forbidden fruit herself, and tempted her husband to eat it, she would never have complained of her subjection; therefore it ought never to be complained of, though harsh; but sin must be complained of, that made it so. Those wives who not only despise and disobey their husbands, but domineer over them, do not consider that they not only violate a divine law, but thwart a divine sentence. By Matthew Henry, Who is Matthew Henry? | Matthew Henry | Learn to Pray the Bible
• “Your desire shall be for your husband.” Now let’s talk about the word “desire.” What does it mean? It’s an interesting word; it comes from an Arabic root and I have continued to survey this passage because it’s been a passage of some controversy. But it is of Arabic root meaning to seek control. Literally it could read, “You shall seek control over your husband...you will desire to exert your will,” that is a sign of the curse, “you will desire to take charge, to be in control, to master.” And that desire shows up in various women in various ways. In some of them it’s a quiet, silent desire that smolders, with others it is a shouting desire that isn’t much of a secret to anybody. And the more godless women are, very often the more hostile they are toward men. Sometimes that hostility takes the attitude of coldness, indifference, apathy. Because she can’t achieve what she wants, she eventually becomes totally indifferent and apathetic toward the man. But there is this desire, this seeking to have one’s own way, to get control. That’s why there have been through history always Feminist Movements, always. Even in the time of the Apostle Paul. I read some fascinating things about the time of the Apostle Paul. There was a liberation of women movement going on in the world of the Apostle Paul. Women were shaving their heads and going around bare chested with spears in their hands and trying to prove that they can do everything men did. There has always been that kind of movement in history because it’s reflective of this curse. The man has to deal with the fact that his wife wants to control him. By John Macarthur, Grace to You (gty.org)
• Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you: The idea is to contrast the woman’s desire and the husband’s rule over her. This speaks of an inherent challenge in embracing the husband’s role as leader of the home and family. This same word for desire is used in Genesis 4:7 of the desire of sin to master over Cain. Because of the curse, Eve would have to fight a desire to master her husband, a desire that works against God’s ordained order for the home. The principle of Adam’s headship as a husband was established before the fall (see Genesis 2:18 and 2:22). Now the curse on Eve makes it much harder for her to submit and flow with God’s institution of male headship in the home. By David Guzik, Enduring Word - Free Bible Commentary from Pastor David Guzik

“But take heed to your spirit, and do not forsake the wife of your youth. “But if you hate her and send her away,” says the Lord God of Israel, “ungodliness will obscure your thinking,” says the Lord Almighty. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not forsake her.” (Malachi 2:15-16 OSB)

It is obvious from this scripture above that God hates divorce. We can see this to be true as well in Matthew’s gospel which reads: “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away doth commit adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) So, if a man puts away his faithful wife, it would not only show a lack of honor for her, but it could put her in danger of committing adultery as well. And let’s take note to what Peter said to those of us who are husbands: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) So, just because the man has a God given authority over his wife, he shouldn’t looked down upon her nor to be treated as inferior.

Now in Proverbs, it says: “An excellent wife, who can find her? For her worth is far above jewels.” (Proverbs 31:10 NASB20). Yes, a fine wife is priceless and worth much. We see this also to be true where we read: “A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22 CSB) So, a woman is to be honored and loved by her husband. For she is a person that is precious and is just as important in the eyes of God as any man. “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. ... Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:28-29, 33 NKJV)

“But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8 CSB)

We read earlier that the man is to be the head over his wife and children. Therefore, they must be in subjection unto him in all things. So then, a man should also be the main provider for his household as well according to that passage above. For he must do all he can to make sure that his family has food and a shelter over their heads. And of course, the wife plays an important part in this as well by preparing the daily meals and to make sure that her children are properly clothed. However, the man must make sure that these things for his family are met. In fact, for him to neglect these things would only cause him to be worse than an unbeliever according to what was said above. And let’s also remember that Gods word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. For, “The one who is slack in his work is a brother to one who destroys.” (Proverbs 18:9 NET)

Now, I don’t believe that God is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For things do happen at times that are outside of our control. But that being said, God will help meet their needs if they truly trust and rely on him. So, for all you men out there, do your best to love your wives according to scripture and teach your children truth. This you must do without being harsh or provoking them to anger. For God’s word says: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 ESV)

Now, this might be controversial to some of you woman out there, but there are roles that should be done only by men. This would include their involvement in the military as well as the police force. Yes, these roles should only be done by qualified men who are called to defend both their country and community. I say this because in the bible we read that all military and policing actions were performed by only men. For we read: “Take a census of all the congregation of the people of Israel, by clans, by fathers' houses, according to the number of names, every male, head by head. From twenty years old and upward, all in Israel who are able to go to war, you and Aaron shall list them, company by company. ... So all those listed of the people of Israel, by their fathers’ houses, from twenty years old and upward, every man able to go to war in Israel - all those listed were 603,550.” (Numbers 1:2-3, 45-46 ESV)

So, let’s put away this “woman’s liberation” nonsense and stand on God’s word instead. For there are those disobedient woman out there who want to venture into those roles that should only be done by qualified men. For it seams that there are some who want to prove that they can do everything a man can do. But according to God’s word, that is not true. And I must also say that there are even some men (who for one reason or another) may not qualified to be firemen, policemen or to fight on the front lines of battle. But that all being said, let’s stand upon God’s word and speak out against any nonsense of those who who see things differently.

• Then the officers shall speak to the people, saying, ‘Is there any man who has built a new house and has not dedicated it? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man dedicate it. And is there any man who has planted a vineyard and has not enjoyed its fruit? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man enjoy its fruit. And is there any man who has betrothed a wife and has not taken her? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man take her.’ And the officers shall speak further to the people, and say, ‘Is there any man who is fearful and fainthearted? Let him go back to his house, lest he make the heart of his fellows melt like his own.’” (Deuteronomy 20:5-8 ESV)

“Older women likewise are to exhibit behavior fitting for those who are holy, not slandering, not slaves to excessive drinking, but teaching what is good. In this way they will train the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, fulfilling their duties at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the message of God may not be discredited.” (Titus 2:3-5 NET)

According to the scripture above, older women should be passing on to the younger women the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening in our generation today. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage. Then, when these same women do marry and become mothers, they end up sending their young children off to some daycare so that they can continue working their career jobs. All this is not consistent with God’s word. For women should mainly be at home raising and instilling Godly values to their young children instead of letting someone else teach them who know what? And even the military as well as the police force has opened its doors to woman which goes against nature itself. For woman are to bring life into this world, not to take it out.

Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind. For as said before, there are those women who feel they need to prove that they are equal to men within the workforce. But the truth of it is, a woman’s role in the home is more vital and important that anything she can pursue outside it. For she has the God given role to: “Train a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6 NET) So ladies, what job can be more important than that? Therefore, fulfill your role as a woman which is a blessing from God. For anything else would be in defiance to God’s word.

Now, I don’t believe that being “keepers at home” means that a woman must only stay within the confines of their house. For there are family own businesses which they can help run. This also would be a great way for their children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. And there are also those women who may choose to be single or have not married yet. These same women can get involved in jobs within their community. But again, this would all depend on their situation at home. For if a mother or single woman is needed to stay at home, they should forsake whatever job their doing and attended to their family first.

(Please note: Back in the day, children were included within the work force. This groomed them to be productive citizens who will become fruitful in our society. However, our corrupt government system has changed all that. For they think they know better than God when it came down to raising children)

Now, that all being said, I do realize that our corrupt system here in America has made it hard for couples to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and let’s retire early mentality can bring a family and nation to ruin. However, as said before, a woman’s first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me but from God himself as was quoted above in Titus 2:3-5.

“Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.” (1 Timothy 2:11-14 ESV)

It is very clear both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men. For this is true not only as quoted above, but also where we read: “Let your women be silent in the assemblies, for it is not permitted to them to speak; but to be in subjection, as the law also says. But if they wish to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is a shame for a woman to speak in assembly.” (1 Corinthians 14:34-35 DBY)

Now, if we look at the Old Testament, we can see that all the priestly positions were only held by men. For we read: “Now take Aaron your brother, and his sons with him, from among the children of Israel, that he may minister to Me as priest, Aaron and Aaron's sons: Nadab, Abihu, Eleazar, and Ithamar.” (Exodus 28:1 NKJV) Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were men whom Jesus personally chose. So, if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, wouldn’t he at least have chosen one woman, perhaps maybe Mary Magdalene. But it is clear from Paul’s letters that no woman should take on any form of leadership position within the church assembly. This I believe would be true even if the group is made up of only women.

Now, I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was: “a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time. And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment.” (Judges 4:4-5 KJV) So, while it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still wouldn’t qualify her to be a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that doesn’t give them license to take on roles which were not assigned to them. “For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: Who can have compassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way; for that he himself also is compassed with infirmity.” (Hebrews 5:1-2 KJV)

And let’s remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest. “And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly: thou hast not kept the commandment of the LORD thy God, which he commanded thee: for now would the LORD have established thy kingdom upon Israel for ever. But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the LORD hath sought him a man after his own heart, and the LORD hath commanded him to be captain over his people, because thou hast not kept that which the LORD commanded thee.” (1 Samuel 13:13-14 KJV) So, even though Saul was King over Israel, he still had no authority to take on the role of a priest, thus he was removed from being the King.

“The deaconesses too must be serious, not gossips; they must be temperate and perfectly trustworthy.” (1 Timothy 3:11 Williams)

Now, the bible does teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and deacons. For we already read above concerning Debora who was a prophetess in the Old Testament. So likewise, woman can be deaconesses as well, for we read: “I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deaconess of the church at Cen'chre-ae, that you may receive her in the Lord as befits the saints, and help her in whatever she may require from you, for she has been a helper of many and of myself as well.” (Romans 16:1-2 RSV)

Now it must be understood that this word deacon (and Deaconesses) does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church. For in Acts 6:3, Stephen was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables, but not to be a leader or a teacher in the church. However, we do read:“ And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy.” (Acts 2:17-18 KJV)

So again, let’s make sure we’re following God’s role for our life instead of coming up with our own. For we shouldn’t be changing things around to please ourselves or others. So, let’s only stick to what God word has to say for us all. And in so doing, we will surly be blessed. Amen.

Commentary Reference:

• Paul the apostle restricts women from serving as teaching and/or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors over men and women, which definitely includes preaching to them, teaching them publicly, and exercising spiritual authority over them.....Did Priscilla and her husband teach the gospel of Jesus Christ to Apollos? Yes, in their home they “explained to him the way of God more adequately” (Acts 18:26). Does the Bible ever say that Priscilla pastured a church or taught publicly or became the spiritual leader of a congregation of saints? No. As far as we know, Priscilla was not involved in ministry activity in contradiction to (1 Timothy 2:11–14).
  In Romans 16:1, Phoebe is called a “deacon” (or “servant”) in the church and is highly commended by Paul. But, as with Priscilla, there is nothing in Scripture to indicate that Phoebe was a pastor or a teacher of men or even of women in the church. “Able to teach” is given as a qualification for elders, but not for deacons (1 Timothy 3:1–13; Titus 1:6–9). The structure of 1 Timothy 2:11–14 makes the reason why women cannot be pastors perfectly clear. Verse 13 begins with “for,” giving the “cause” of Paul's statement in verses 11–12. Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Because “Adam was created first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived” (verses 13–14). God created Adam first and then created Eve to be a “helper” for Adam.
  The order of creation has universal application in the family (Ephesians 5:22–33) and in the church. Many women excel in gifts of hospitality, mercy, teaching, evangelism, and helps. Much of the ministry of the local church depends on women deacons. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying or prophesying (1 Corinthians 11:5), only from having spiritual teaching authority over men and women within the confines of a church. The Bible nowhere restricts women from exercising the gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12). Women, just as much as men, are called to minister to others, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), and to proclaim the gospel to the lost (Matthew 28:18–20; Acts 1Y8; 1 Peter 3:15).
  God has ordained that only men are to serve in positions of spiritual teaching authority in the church...... Men are to set the example in spiritual leadership—in their lives and through their words. Women are to take a less authoritative role. Women are encouraged to teach younger women their roles in life (Titus 2:3–5). The Bible also does not restrict women from teaching children. The only activity women are restricted from is teaching or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors to men. This does not make women less important, by any means, but rather gives them a ministry focus more in agreement with Godʼs plan and His gifting of them. - Two Views on Women in Ministry, Revised by James R. Beck, ed. and Logos Bible Software. (Gotquestions.org)

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To the Reader: It would like to remind you my fellow Christians, of what God’s word says concerning raising children. For we are to teach them straight from the womb to know God and to be respectable citizens. That’s because the first few years of a child’s life are the most important in their development. Therefore, whether you’re a parent, grandparent, older sibling, babysitter, teacher, or one who has the opportunity to say a few words of wisdom, we should always: “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV) God help us all to do just that. Amen.

“Older men are to be self-controlled, worthy of respect, sensible, and sound in faith, love, and endurance. In the same way, older women are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not slaves to excessive drinking. They are to teach what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands and to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, workers at home, kind, and in submission to their husbands, so that God's word will not be slandered. In the same way, encourage the young men to be self-controlled in everything. Make yourself an example of good works with integrity and dignity in your teaching. Your message is to be sound beyond reproach, so that any opponent will be ashamed, because he doesn't have anything bad to say about us.” (Titus 2:2-8 CSB)

According to that passage above, we should be teaching the next generation God’s truths. This we must do by educating them to be fruitful and productive individuals. Young boys at a very early age should be nurtured and guided for a future career that will help them be able to support a family as well as be beneficial to their society. Likewise, young girls should be taught what it takes to be a good wife and how to raise a family. But most of all, we should be teaching them about our Awesome God and Creator, showing them from birth what Christianity is all about. This can even start when they're still in the womb, singing and reading the bible out loud to them. And let’s not forget to cover them in prayers as well.

But what’s really happening in our homes? Well, there are those mindless video games and action movies that put nonsense and violence into kids’ heads. And then we wonder why our youth are numb to violence and are killing each other in schools. Also, there are those silly cartoons, kid shows, Disney movies, and foolish games that they’re being entertained with. Parents as well as our society are teaching and training children to be a bunch of goofballs instead of nurturing them to be productive citizens. Unfortunately, we can see our world starting to reflect this nonsense that’s being taught. And yes, let’s not forget about the Smart Phone addiction that’s captivating not only our youth, but many adults as well. And if that’s not bad enough, we now got a society that’s not only confused over their own gender, but they’re brainwashing young children to be confused over theirs as well.

So, God’s word say to all you parents and teachers out there: “These words I am commanding you today must be kept in mind, and you must teach them to your children and speak of them as you sit in your house, as you walk along the road, as you lie down, and as you get up. You should tie them as a reminder on your forearm and fasten them as symbols on your forehead. Inscribe them on the doorframes of your houses and gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-9 NET)

Below is website concerning child development in their early years:

• https://www.firstthingsfirst.org/early-childhood-matters/brain-development/

Now, let’s consider the child Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (whom we know as Mozart). He, even at the age of four, not only already new how to play different instruments, such as the piano and the violin, but also composed his first piano concerto. Leopold Mozart, who was his father and teacher, regarded the blots of ink put down on paper by the unskilled hand of a child with disbelief, realizing that all notes were correctly arranged following contemporary musical rules. From this time on he also taught his son the art of composing: Wolfgang played the melodies on the piano and his father put the notes down on paper. Wolfgang also himself enjoyed singing, a passion that would be his companion for the rest of his life.

So, I don't think this child was fed a bunch of nonsense like most kids get today. For instead I believe that he was trained in the “way he should go.” And we can see this to be true with Johann Sebastian Bach and George Frederic Handel as well. All these men were not only musicians at a young age, but were involved with the church of their day as well. Therefore, fellow Christians, let’s stop raising our children on worldly nonsense. For we need to raise them as productive citizens who will bare much fruit in this life instead.

Now, we come to the important subject of disciplining our children. For it seems our society today thinks it knows better than God on how to correct children. For His word tells us not to spare the rod of correction, for in applying it you’re actually showing more love than you would if you withheld it. But unfortunately, you can get into big trouble if you take a switch to your child these days. Again, this is because of our corrupt governmental system that thinks they know better than God. But the truth is, all of us were born sinners. Therefore, we need to discipline our children when they get out of hand. For: “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15 KJV) So that being said, let’s stop encouraging are children in the ways of foolishness and instead make them sound Godly people.

Below are a few more scriptures from the Bible that speak on correction:

• "The one who will not use the rod hates his son, but the one who loves him disciplines him diligently.” (Proverbs 13:24 CSB)
• “Apply your heart to instruction and your ears to the words of knowledge. (Proverbs 23:12 NET)
• “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” (Proverbs 29:15 ESV)

Below is an article touching on the nonsense of our justice system:

• According to Fox News Latino – In Corpus Christi Texas, A mom was sentenced to probation and has lost custody of her children for spanking her daughter. The article said: Rosalina Gonzales of Corpus Christi pleaded guilty on Wednesday to injury to a child for swatting the 2-year-old on her buttocks. According to prosecutors, Gonzales in December hit the girl with an open hand, leaving red marks. Police arrested Gonzales after the childʼs grandmother reported the injuries and took the child to a hospital. Gonzales will serve five yearsʼprobation, take parenting classes and follow guidelines laid out by Child Protective Services. KZTV10.com reports that the ruling judge in the case make it clear that spanking is a crime. “You donʼt spank children today.”Judge Jose Longoria is quoted as having said. “In the old days, maybe we got spanked, but there was different quarrel. You donʼt spank children.” Published June 21, 2011 / Fox News Latino

Now, there is one last thing I want to touch on, and that is sex education. For I believe the vast majority of parents have failed their children by not educating them about sex. For how many of you have actually talked to your children about sex, explaining to them the role of sex in marriage? So, by hiding or refusing to talk about sex, you are making it appear to be dirty or wrong. Well, didn’t God ordain sex in the first place, telling us to be fruitful and multiply? So, why do we find it so difficult to educate them in this very important part of life? And the truth is, they’re going to find out about it one way or another. So, wouldn’t it be best that you teach them the do’s and don’ts of sex while they're still young? For we need to remember that God’s word say to “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV)

Again, in Deuteronomy 6:7 it says to teach them when you’re lying down, and rising up as well. Therefore, teaching them about sex at an early age will help them be ready when they find a mate. Now, I'm not suggesting that you have an open-door policy and let your children watch you have sex. For it's true that you could end up in jail and have your children taken from you as well. But that being said, you shouldn’t panic if a child does happen to walk in on you while they’re in act. For this will only convey the false message that sex is dirty and wrong. For this could be a good time to tell them how babies are made.

Therefore, it’s time for parent to step up and teach them God’s truths about sex before they learn it outside the home environment. And please don’t rely on our corrupt school system to teach your children about sex. For we need to stand up against those in our government who think they know better than God. For to fail teaching your children in this area of life could only bring hardship, not only on your child when he get older, but on you the parent as well.

“Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall. Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud.” (Proverbs 16:18-19 NKJV)

Now, I know that this section may not set well with the majority of you out there. But do you really think that getting your children hocked on sports is going to make them a better person? And if so, in what way? For if you would be truly honest with yourself, you would see that sports can only cause one to be prideful and arrogant. For don’t you play to beat your opponent. And don’t you do this in order to show that you’re better than they are? Yes of course. And let’s remember what that passage said above. For it says that: “Pride goes before destruction. And a haughty spirit before a fall.” So, is this really what you want for you and your children?

Now, I can honestly say that I was involved in many sport activities. This included organized hard ball, football, basketball, tennis, racquetball, ping-pong, surfing and more. Yes, I was just strutting my stuff, wanting to show that I'm better than my opponent. However, according to that passage above, you are either going to train them to be fruitful and productive, or to be prideful and arrogant. Because if you don’t teach them the right way to go while their young, you may surely regret it later on. I say this because I witnessed the suffering that a Christian family went through after their son got injured while playing High School football. And because of his suffering, he eventually took his own life. And not only that, but I witnessed the devastation that it can cause on the rest of the family.

So brothers and sisters in Christ, shouldn’t you instead be training children in some kind of skill or trade that is going to be a blessing not only to them, but to others as well? For I can remember as a child (maybe around seven or eight years old) that I received a lab kit that not only contained a working microscope, but chemicals, scalpels and a dead frog in formaldehyde. And sure enough, as an adult I landed a job working in a laboratory analyzing blood for diseases. So as said before, you should instead: “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV)

Below are some articles showing tragedy concerning High School football:

• 7 middle and high school football deaths in a month
•  Experts Alarmed Over 13 High School Football Deaths This Season 
• We Had No Idea This Many Kids Have Died Playing High School Football This Year 

Let’s dare to stand on God’s word and not follow man’s false teachings. Let’s use God given wisdom and discernment in everything we do, relying on the Holy Spirit to be our teacher. For: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13 NKJV). Amen.

• Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. (Genesis 18:18-19 KJV)
• Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons; Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children. (Deuteronomy 4:9-10 KJV)
• And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
• Give ear, O my people, to my teaching; incline your ears to the words of my mouth! I will open my mouth in a parable; I will utter dark sayings from of old, things that we have heard and known, that our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the LORD, and his might, and the wonders that he has done. He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments; and that they should not be like their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation, a generation whose heart was not steadfast, whose spirit was not faithful to God. (Psalm 78:1-8 ESV)
• And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 NKJV)

Below is a list of the bible versions that were used in this article. I listed these to help you in your study of God’s word.

• KJV = The Authorized Version or King James Version (KJV), 1611, 1769. Outside of the United Kingdom, the KJV is in the public domain. Within the United Kingdom, the rights to the KJV are vested in the Crown.
• ESV = The Holy Bible, English Standard Version copyright © 2001, 2007, 2011, 2016 by Crossway Books and Bibles, a Publishing Ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
• CSB = Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 2017, 2020 by Holman Bible Publishers.
• NET = The NET Bible®, New English Translation Copyright © 1996 By Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. NET Bible® is a registered trademark The NET Bible® Logo, Service Mark Copyright © 1997 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. All rights reserve.
• NKJV = Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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